You focus on the wrong stuff. It’s true, you are terrible at a lot of things, but there are a couple things that nobody else does as well as you do. It drives me bananas that you will — you will throw yourself away completely because of one or two things that you think about that you think are wrong about you. And that’s what breaks my heart … You gotta ignore those and lean towards the things that make you like yourself. Forget everything else. Fake it. Fake your way upwards.
The National’s lead singer Matt Berninger to his brother Tom, in Tom’s documentary “Mistaken for Strangers” (via wingsoutstretched)
Overbearing but loving A-type oniisan advice! I really enjoyed this documentary — as someone who doesn’t know much/care about The National it was a lot more fun to watch the lead singer’s amiable younger metalhead brother ask band members Smash Hits! style questions and make them make facial expressions into the camera than it would have been to watch a “normal” behind the scenes documentary (I mean… they’re not really an outré band, The National).
IMO it’s not so much good because Tom Beringer makes it about himself and his Process(tm) instead — even though that gives the doc its throughline — or even because it ends up being about the relationship between the brothers — but for the glimpse of the family context that produced two very different but very creative people, and how (like any other family context) that shapes your assumptions about how you work and the world works. You wonder about the other two pairs of brothers in the band, actually, and the contexts they came from.(via minimoonstar)